How to Lose Friends On Social Media

A bit of a satire. A bit of a real.

If you haven’t spend a good share of time using social media or surfing the net for work, study, or whatever lifestyle purpose it serves you, then, you haven’t been bitten by the new normal syndrome.

This is probably the offshoot of the COVID-19 pandemic which forced everyone into a hibernation of sorts in social interaction.

These times, most gadgets seem to clank and honk beginning in the morning, working incessantly through the afternoon.

I am speaking of a usual routine for moms back home who have been relegated to a life of domesticity because work opportunities seem to belong to a bygone past.

The keyboard no matter how rusty, trusty, or new, has to work, toil and work ever since the new normal came.

Despite being an off-the-work chart, moms have to share their computer/s with their kid/s who are now geared for distance learning. So go share a bucket of app moms with kids. So there won’t be a gap in their education.

Who wouldn’t yield to this new normal lifestyle when almost everyone is on a social distancing phase? And many are afraid to go outside for a semblance of normalcy.

Doing grocery has to be spaced, shopping online is overrated, while connecting with friends and loved ones has to be kept at a low profile, or should I say long distance.

But for the unprepared in social media lingo, going online can be quite of a shock once you surf all the nitty-gritty content of many social media posts and comments on different issues hurled online.

I’m talking about above the rank topics that hug most feeds online like topics about the COVID-19 vaccine; the forthcoming elections; and even entertainment news.

Reading all these in one spell of free time can rub you off some negativity at the end of the day.

Yes, us old-fashioned moms can squeal this. Netsurfing these days are worlds apart from the early fledgling blogging days in 2005 when blogging is, at its early days of becoming popular in the country.

As there are rules in social interaction, there seem to be an unspoken rule as well in using social media nowadays. I refer to ethics in social media lingo and interaction.

Of course, we want to win friends and win work opportunities; but this article is not about that.

This is about the easy ways one can dispel a good climate of interaction in social media, hence the title, “How to Lose Friends On Social Media.”


Do not use !#* to express extreme expression.

Beware of those “special characters”.

With this, I mean one to be wary of using keyboard characters that have alternate meanings or purvey rude intention or thought.

An exclamation point such as using “!” at the end of a sentence or subheading, can express a loud sentiment or emotion and can encapsulate one’s message. But using it in red color (yes I have been seeing a lot), can actually subtly hint disrespect in tonality or voice.

Never use red in sentences. And please refrain from using an exclamation point in whatever social media interaction you engage in.

Mind your tone.

Try to stay away from using harsh words and tone in your sentence structure. Read and reread every sentence or comment you post.

We all talk differently. And write differently.

Some can be more formal. While others prefer to be light and conversational when talking online.

Know which one works best in the specific media you use. Whether it’s blogging, posting content on social media, or writing copy for an e-commerce site.

Each copy or post has to be an easy read and pleasant freer of negativity. It must not be bespoke with condescend phrases like “you cannot do this… or that”.

If your intent in writing is formal let it have boundaries and proper structuring.

If it’s conversational keep it friendly. Most content in social media are flat-out frank and has that “thinking aloud” innuendo.

Make sure the sentence, comment, or copy cannot offend many.

Don’t share everything on social media.

Practicing some sort of restraint in the use of social media can be ultimately good.

Back home a lot of people have fought, parted ways, and lost the good faith of their friends and FB acquaintances because they shared a lot already.

These are not just true for celebrities but even for ordinary people with the eagerness to make it big in social media.

But in their earnestness to earn a lot of followers and likes, they have to bite into the truth that their privacy and personal boundary can be put to a test already, just by commenting on social media.

So just to be safe, when one is so unsure if it will eventually gain a dislike and rather unfollows, it is best not to post, write or hint an opinion or lifestyle that is not acceptable to prevailing culture in one’s locality.

As social media patron, one has to really toe the line between what is needed and what must be kept private.

Sharing all can ultimately spell the easiest ways to lose many friends.

So, turn off the commenting feature. Or stop sharing posts. The buck stops with each and every individual online.

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How Far Can You Go When You Have A Short Mile to Run

Pardon the rhetoric. But perhaps quaint the road maybe to all of us or some of us, this has been a question in the offing.

One can raise this as a matter of testing a person’s tensile strength. Can you work against the odds or leave everything to chance– to make it.

The most successful tycoons do so with a vision in their heart. The most industrious workers do so with passion to be better in their career. And the ordinary, they wait and wait for heaven’s sake, to “make it”. 

In the near past, that almost fades from a memory, one can have three options to go the extra mile. That’s from a good past where everything was tangible.

  1. Phone a friend.

You simply make that call, whether you’re a power player or even someone obscure from others’ recall; you make a call and a friend would come or at least heed an answer, to whatever need or request one has.

2. Get the rewards or perks.

Another option is to at least have their “privileges” ready. In times of finite opportunities.

It’s the trend we have right now. And for awhile, it can be a little better.

The next one option:

3. Go turn right. Have a stop over.

Take a walk. Or walk the talk.

The simplest and hardest option that can be. But rarely the option taken by many.

This is not the humdrum approach to taking challenges, as it seem.  Because this requires abrupt change: must you continue what you want, or would you rather shift your gears to be someone who can make things happen?

In our everyday plight in whatever role we take, the duties can be daunting for the smart and otherwise. But we continue to do so for the sake of the loved and waiting to be loved.

As they say, the skyline is different from where you’re standing.

Me, I’d rather look up, stand, and take thing’s from a skyline’s perspective.

 That is after I go an extra mile.

What about you?

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