How to Lose Friends On Social Media


A bit of a satire. A bit of a real.

If you haven’t spend a good share of time using social media or surfing the net for work, study, or whatever lifestyle purpose it serves you, then, you haven’t been bitten by the new normal syndrome.

This is probably the offshoot of the COVID-19 pandemic which forced everyone into a hibernation of sorts in social interaction.

These times, most gadgets seem to clank and honk beginning in the morning, working incessantly through the afternoon.

I am speaking of a usual routine for moms back home who have been relegated to a life of domesticity because work opportunities seem to belong to a bygone past.

The keyboard no matter how rusty, trusty, or new, has to work, toil and work ever since the new normal came.

Despite being an off-the-work chart, moms have to share their computer/s with their kid/s who are now geared for distance learning. So go share a bucket of app moms with kids. So there won’t be a gap in their education.

Who wouldn’t yield to this new normal lifestyle when almost everyone is on a social distancing phase? And many are afraid to go outside for a semblance of normalcy.

Doing grocery has to be spaced, shopping online is overrated, while connecting with friends and loved ones has to be kept at a low profile, or should I say long distance.

But for the unprepared in social media lingo, going online can be quite of a shock once you surf all the nitty-gritty content of many social media posts and comments on different issues hurled online.

I’m talking about above the rank topics that hug most feeds online like topics about the COVID-19 vaccine; the forthcoming elections; and even entertainment news.

Reading all these in one spell of free time can rub you off some negativity at the end of the day.

Yes, us old-fashioned moms can squeal this. Netsurfing these days are worlds apart from the early fledgling blogging days in 2005 when blogging is, at its early days of becoming popular in the country.

As there are rules in social interaction, there seem to be an unspoken rule as well in using social media nowadays. I refer to ethics in social media lingo and interaction.

Of course, we want to win friends and win work opportunities; but this article is not about that.

This is about the easy ways one can dispel a good climate of interaction in social media, hence the title, “How to Lose Friends On Social Media.”

Here goes my list of 3 EASY WAYS TO LOSE FRIENDS ON SOCIAL MEDIA:

Do not use !#* to express extreme expression.

Beware of those “special characters”.

With this, I mean one to be wary of using keyboard characters that have alternate meanings or purvey rude intention or thought.

An exclamation point such as using “!” at the end of a sentence or subheading, can express a loud sentiment or emotion and can encapsulate one’s message. But using it in red color (yes I have been seeing a lot), can actually subtly hint disrespect in tonality or voice.

Never use red in sentences. And please refrain from using an exclamation point in whatever social media interaction you engage in.

Mind your tone.

Try to stay away from using harsh words and tone in your sentence structure. Read and reread every sentence or comment you post.

We all talk differently. And write differently.

Some can be more formal. While others prefer to be light and conversational when talking online.

Know which one works best in the specific media you use. Whether it’s blogging, posting content on social media, or writing copy for an e-commerce site.

Each copy or post has to be an easy read and pleasant freer of negativity. It must not be bespoke with condescend phrases like “you cannot do this… or that”.

If your intent in writing is formal let it have boundaries and proper structuring.

If it’s conversational keep it friendly. Most content in social media are flat-out frank and has that “thinking aloud” innuendo.

Make sure the sentence, comment, or copy cannot offend many.

Don’t share everything on social media.

Practicing some sort of restraint in the use of social media can be ultimately good.

Back home a lot of people have fought, parted ways, and lost the good faith of their friends and FB acquaintances because they shared a lot already.

These are not just true for celebrities but even for ordinary people with the eagerness to make it big in social media.

But in their earnestness to earn a lot of followers and likes, they have to bite into the truth that their privacy and personal boundary can be put to a test already, just by commenting on social media.

So just to be safe, when one is so unsure if it will eventually gain a dislike and rather unfollows, it is best not to post, write or hint an opinion or lifestyle that is not acceptable to prevailing culture in one’s locality.

As social media patron, one has to really toe the line between what is needed and what must be kept private.

Sharing all can ultimately spell the easiest ways to lose many friends.

So, turn off the commenting feature. Or stop sharing posts. The buck stops with each and every individual online.

Thank you for reading Fated to Write by Anna. For more of my posts please click on my previous articles and do like or comment when you think it will help better my blog. Thank you.

Anna

Copyright 2021

Philippines

How To Be A Mom When You’re Not That Young To Err

I got pregnant in my thirties. Now I’m in my forties, being a mom is still a phase to explore each step of the day. But it is  a route towards learning more and more.

The way of moms will not be the same for everyone.

It takes frequent self-introspection for moms who would like to make it right for their kid/s. It can require planning, making the right choices and being realistic when one is in the thrust of challenges.

How can one hurdle the situations related to parenting when one is past that young age already?  For first-time moms who are having their kid/s on the latter part of their lives, here are some things you must prepare for as a mom:

FIRST-TIME MOMS?  YOU MUST KNOW THESE  4 TIPS TO GET YOURSELF PREPARED:

  • Learn to be street-smart.  If you have lived your life within the confines of your common home-office routine, then it is in your best interest to be smart beyond what every school book can tell. This means polishing your conversational skills when dealing with people; learning new ways to cook or adjusting to different social situations that can require you to get out of your “learned” space (or how you  usually do things the way you were taught at home, in school or in your work place). Being street-smart can prepare you to reinvent yourself as a woman. It can also  allow you to be more knowledgeable of the things around you allowing you to cope in situations that require you to use skills instead of using set learnings.
  • Push your goals but not your boundaries.  Try not to settle and stick with what’s within your means if you want to achieve more.  Dream the possibilities of success while staying rooted to your motivations. You can push to achieve more of your goals. But remind yourself not to extend a divisive line that keeps you secured. Know when to hold back on your plans when needed to.
  • Patience is the word. Dealing with a kid as a first-time mom in your older years can put you in surprising or socially-challenging situations.  Kid/s can demand just like adults, be pesky when asking for things, while appearing wiser than their real age. A kid can outsmart and take your sash for being witty and the “most prepared mom”, when they want to. Patience truly helps.
  •  You need to envision how you want your parenting style turns out to be.  With or without a partner or a hubby, a mom must stay financially-stable, while remaining idealistic of how she wants her parenting style should be. A mom must also support her kid’s ambition and goals and try to make these happen.

 

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Take it easy and enjoy your day as a mom.

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Fated to Write by Anna

Philippines

 

3 Reasons to Take A Step Back, When You’re a Goal-Setter

 

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Look at the greener side of things when encountering some fails.

 

A MOTIVATIONAL GUIDE FOR WOMEN: SUCCESS HAS MANY OPTIONS

Regardless of age, setting goals is part of growth.

In career or business, having goals are necessary for individuals who are raring to do more with their time to be productive.

It really does not require a certain skill or profession to be able to succeed in goal-setting.

One only needs to envision what one wants for his/her future, in order to create a path worth treading on—each day.  And make those routine tasks or activities less tedious to work on.  These are part of your motivational steps to achieve a certain goal.

But when things don’t turn out as you expect them to be, what can you do to make up for the gap in productivity that translates to less goals achieved?

Below are some “friendly” ideas why  “waiting time” to achieve your plans is perfectly fine, for as long as you keep your ideas on hold for a greater strive.

 

WHY IT IS GOOD TO TAKE A STEP BACK IN YOUR CAREER OR BUSINESS GOALS:

  1. It’s nice to take a step back to see if what you’re hoping for is MEANT TO BE.

Let’s face it, you can shoot for the stars in your career or business. Or other stuff. But then, if it does not work out according to the time table you hope for it to happen, you can instead take a step backwards.  Don’t hurry up in fulfilling your goals.

  1. Be on a “vacation-mode” after your goal-setting is done.  And rethink once you realize your call-to-action is not appealing or purposive.

Every career or business goal must have an objective that can not only benefit you, but others as well.

If you’re having difficulty in other aspects of your plans, you can try to slow down and pour out all your ideas in one jot down note. And unlist some goals that can be more of a clutter to your dreams than a  success story.

You need to do this to give focus on your higher goals.

  1. A step back in your plans can let you gain alternate perspectives.

Perhaps,you’re thinking plan A or plan B for your career or business opportunities would work out best and are the best route to take.

But then there are other options too, and these are what you can explore if you want to achieve your goals in your career or in business.

Success happens when you keep on trying for opportunities along the way.  And small steps to achievement are also nice have. Don’t hesitate to take a step back and see how you can tie the loose ends of your little fails.

 

What’s in your bucket list for the coming months dear readers? Please like or comment, or read more of my posts here on Fated to Write by Anna.  

 

copyright 2019

Philippines

Anna Vb

Fated to Write by Anna

How To Be Brave as a Woman

(even when you think you’re not!)

Sometimes a woman has to own that courage in order to survive the landscape of today’s challenges. Whether at work or other important aspects of our pursuits, call them goals– we have to take chances. 

Because situations may not always favor the hardworking but the favored few– who knows more, or who probably know the right people to get what they want.  

It is not a fair world after all.

How can you fight for fairness and get that courage to fight for what you think is a God-given right?

It is hard I suppose to live in an interconnected reality, when others can push others to toughen up or risk being on the side waiting for chance.

When others can stare into limited opportunities and others can simply pick out what they want as if they are picking from a shopping shelf.

These all relate to those who are under and over social expectations or standards.

Whether it pertains to economic statuses, or academic achievements. These days it can also pertain to inequality in technological fluency.

Or the capacity to reach for that glass ceiling, within the boardroom or within the precepts of the smallest unit of society.

How can it be fair?

For women, there is an urge to level up beyond the restrictions one has to hurdle with.

If your standards is just at par with what you were planned to have, then it would have been a fainting effort to dream.

Think about being brave these days, this way: it’s like having a bucket of lemons and turning them into “lemonade”. 

Thus women must make everything count to pursue their dreams. 

And every effort should be directed towards a vision of self-actualization and realization. Otherwise it would be an unequal stake for women.

Truth also there is calmness in being ordinary.  But there is fulfillment in going beyond the ordinary. Talking about the movers and shakers of the society- those who knew they can rise above challenges.

If you’ve got staple needs, let it be.

But as a woman, if you’ve got more than a dream to hold onto, in your career or other aspects, it must be pursued with focus and tenacity to achieve the goals you planned on achieving.

Social boundaries will always be there to hold people in, to a fault of being limited.

If you want a passing rate in every goal, it would be fine. But it will not surmount to change nor success.

When you’re a woman, you need to hold on and be brave to whatever challenges that may come.

How to be brave really when you’re not?

Find your strength and connect with the right order of possibilities.

Is there an option to your difficulty?

Is there another road to achieve your goals or must you wait for the right time to get what you want?  

Find that right space to mull over what you have at the moment.

And then plan if it’s time to start over, continue to pursue or realize that state of contentedness.

Write your fears. Worries. Share your dreams. To make them possible.

Let it be. Let yourself be-happy. Be brave.

Anna